If you ask maîtriser to describe are relationship he would say ‘We have a committed, open, non, monogamous, Polygamous relationship, which is also a D/s relationship.’. But that is a bit of a blinking mouthful. Basically. we are a male Dom and 4 female subs, who live together, who screw and play together. We all class each other as partners, butwe all have other partners that join us from time to time. We Have a very Strong D/s side to our life, but all on a different level. We are active on the fetish scene, but we are not swingers. Ok so that still sounds quit complex, and I guess we do have a very complex relationship, but it works for us. We are all happy little things and love each other and are life style very much.
It works because, well we want it to. Like any type of relationship, whether friendship, family or romantic, you must work hard to make it work. Our lifestyle is not for everyone, and we except that. But then a one on one thing is not for us. We have our rules, but the main reasons it works is, because we talk to each other and care very deeply for each other. We do have some rules that help to keep things running smoothly, and I wanted to share them with you.
Communication – This is the Key to everything. We talk, and talk and then talk a little more. If we have any niggles, worries, or feelings, we talk about it. It’s not always easy, and yes sometimes we may grump at each other. But we always talk thing through and never go to bed angry (Hay that is what make up sex is for, right?). Before we say anything, we think about the way we are going to say it. Nobody likes being shouted at and no one likes being sworn at, so we keep swearing in the bedroom and we don’t raise voices.
Respect each other- maîtriser, myself and the girls have a rule that we never judge other people or anyone in our house hold. We all have our own talents, strength, flaws, and failings. What we do is support each other, even if we do not 100% agree with the other is doing. We can offer advice and voice our worries about something the other is doing, but we would never just say ‘that’s is stupid’. We also respect that sometimes people may need their own space, and we are free to ask for space when ever we want. This also means that we know and respect each other’s limits.
Open and honest – No lies, no bitching, and no back biting. If we have any type of problem, we talk about it. Not matter how big or small. We don’t hide stuff from each other, well maybe the odd surprise birthday or Christmas gift. But nothing else and never anything that could affect the happiness of the rest of our little family.
Spend quality time together – We are lucky that we all love spending time together doing things other than screwing. Now, don’t get me wrong, we do a lot of that, but it’s not all about sex. We have date nights as a group, with maîtriser and we also have a once a week, girls only date nights.
Roles – We all have clear and well-defined roles within are little family. Maîtriser Is the Head of our house hold and his word is law. He is strict with us, but he is fair, keeps us safe and away from harm. He challenges us and pushes us, but he is also a big old teddy bear at times. Sukie is kind of maîtriser second in charge, as she has a Dom side to her that she can use when maîtriser is not with us. She is clever, funny, driven and a sweetheart. Kitten is the peace maker and the one who always comes up with good ideas on how to fix stuff. She is also a great listener and always there if you need her. Then we have our little bear, well she is the little of the group. Funny, pretty, kind and giving. She can be prone to pouts of being a brat, but that is half her charm. She is the one who keeps us on our toes and everyone’s top snuggle buddy. Then you have little old me. I am the one who runs are home and keeps everyone on track. I am, at heart a real homebody and it is second nature to take care of people. I am the one who runs everyone’s diary, the house diary, and my own work diary. I am also Maîtriser wife, but I would not change the way things are for the world.
Laughter – Above all we laugh, long and hard. Lifeway to short to go through it being sad and down all the time. Yes, its ok to not be happy all the time, but in everything we do we try to keep a sense of humour about it.
So, to recap, are life style is not for everyone. It works for us and makes each of us happy and whole. We talk, listen, care for and support each other.We are open and up front with each other always. We work hard to keep things fresh and healthy. We respect each other and love each other. And above all we laugh, smile, and count our blessings for being so very lucky as to have each other.